So the situation gets weirder ... now what?

Okay so I've been throwing this situation around on this forum all week and I've taken most of the advice given here, it's actually worked pretty well. I have another question regarding the situation, but I'll recap it so anyone new reading understands. I have a female friend who decided to come on pretty strong to me in a really inappropriate manner. My boyfriend was home at the time but was on his way out. After he left she got a little physical (I was in the shower and was unaware that he had let her in the house), he came back in because he forgot his wallet and misinterpreted the situation. He has since calmed down and we are talking, however I have tried to explain to this girl that her actions not the actions of a friend, but of someone who has no boundaries. She says that I am partly responsible because when we all go out, I am equally flirtatious with her. What I tried explaining then was that in gay clubs, it's common and expected for women and gay men to flirt. It's 'safe flirting' with zero expectation and then I said I was sorry if I led her on. I don't think I did though, I've never had a problem with any other female friend. But I feel bad because she's pretty insistent that I led her on ... plus, even though she crossed the line, I have lost what I thought was a really great friend. So should I try to salvage the friendship at all? Maybe after some time has ped?